Did you major in Parenting?
Maybe you sat in on a workshop or a seminar on disciplining techniques?
If you did, congratulations! But chances are you learned parenting from the school of hard knocks, by trial and error, and by the seat of your pants. And since most of us parent similarly to the way we were parented, we learned from our own parents.
Which brings me to my main thought for the day.... you are training your kids to be parents!
When I stop and let this sink in, I am overwhelmed, awed, and I tremble in fear and trepidation.
Our kids will talk to their kids the way we talk to them. Our kids will express anger, exhibit stress, manage their time and money, and even crack jokes the way we do. What would change in our discipline if we remembered that our kids might speak to their kids exactly the way we speak to them?
My friend grieved when he confessed calling his son, "You stupid!" He instantly remembered his own father calling him that and the pain that caused him.
And what could be different in our children's life decisions if our own were more self-controlled or righteous?
Another friend was confronted with his own chaos of life management when his daughter seemed to escape their home by running into the arms of a young man whose anger issues concerned him. Another friend has deep concerns about her adult son who can't seem to get off his computer to find a job. She realized her distant relationship with her own parents contributed to the lack of communication with her own son.
The Cat in the Cradle, hauntingly makes my point: